The second phase of resilience, grief and loss is Relate, which stands for Relate, Learn, and Adapt.
This phase involves developing positive relationships with others, learning from challenges and successes, and adapting to changing situations. Relate is important for building trust, communication, and collaboration among team members, as well as for enhancing personal growth and performance. Some of the skills and techniques that can help in this phase are active listening, empathy, feedback, problem-solving, and goal setting.
According to one model of grief, the second phase is also restoration orientation, which involves stepping away from emotion and dealing with the more practical lifestyle issues caused by what was lost. These two processes cycle repeatedly, gradually healing the grieving individual, until they can move on from their loss.
Another model of grief suggests that the second stage is anger, which is a natural reaction to the loss of someone or something important. Anger can be directed at oneself, others, or the situation. It can also be a way of expressing pain, frustration, or helplessness. Anger can be a source of energy and motivation, but it can also be destructive and harmful if not managed properly.
Grief and loss can be very challenging and painful, but they can also be opportunities for growth and resilience. Research has shown that gratitude and nondual awareness (a state of consciousness that transcends the sense of separation between self and others) can predict resilience in coping with grief.
Second Phase of Resiliency
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According to one model of grief, the second phase is also restoration orientation, which involves stepping away from emotion and dealing with the more practical lifestyle issues caused by what was lost. These two processes cycle repeatedly, gradually healing the grieving individual, until they can move on from their loss.
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Another model of grief suggests that the second stage is anger, which is a natural reaction to the loss of someone or something important. Anger can be directed at oneself, others, or the situation. It can also be a way of expressing pain, frustration, or helpless. Anger can be a source of energy and motivation, but it can also be destructive and harmful if not managed properly. Grief and loss can be very challenging and painful, but they can also be opportunities for growth and resilience. Research has shown that gratitude and nondual awareness (a state of consciousness that transcends the sense of separation between self and others) can predict resilience in coping with grief.
Gratitude can help people appreciate what they have, focus on the positive aspects of their lives, and foster a sense of meaning and purpose. Nondual awareness can help people transcend their ego and connect with a higher reality, which can provide comfort, peace, and wisdom.
:Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (1999). The dual process model of coping with bereavement
:Rationale and description. Death Studies, 23(3), 197-224.
:Kübler-Ross, E., & Kessler, D. (2005). On grief and grieving
:Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss. Simon and Schuster.
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Myths and misconceptions about grief
Some Myths:
• All losses result in the same type of grieving
• Bereaved individuals only need express their feelings in order to ‘resolve grief’
• To be healthy after the death of a loved one, just put that loss out of your mind
• The intensity of mourning is a testimony to your love for the deceased
• We steadily recover from grief in about a year
• Sudden, unexpected death is the same as losing someone to an anticipated death
• Only close family members grieve
• People who are grieving are best left alone and all mention of the deceased should be
avoided
• Individuals should leave their grieving at home or get on medication to feel better.
Some ‘Truisms’ About Grief and Bereavement:
• Bereavement is a normal, natural experience - although traumatic and disruptive
• Response to loss is not a uniform phenomenon-variability must be recognized. Some show
intense distress and others don’t
• Grief has no timetable. A major loss tends to resurrect old issues and conflicts for the mourner.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Get Things off Your Mind Second Phase of Resiliency"RELATE"Tell Sisters of Grief (S.O.G) what is bothering you and unload negative thoughts and feelings from your mind and heart through our counseling services. We are always here to help all those who need someone to listen to them.Understanding The Impact of Grief, Loss and Trauma, according to Yvette Perreault of "When Grief Comes to Work," If we accept that attachment and loss are a basic part oflife, then we must accept that grief is central to human experience. Death and dying, and loss more broadly,are subjects that many people do not readily want toconfront and will therefore try to avoid where possible.While this is perfectly understandable up to a point, itcan also be unhelpful. It can prevent us fromdeveloping an understanding of how significant suchmatters are in the workplace and can leave us ill-prepared to deal with the considerable challenges grief and loss can present.
We're sorry to hear that you or someone you know is grieving. Grief can be a very difficult and painful experience, and it’s important to seek support when you need it. There are some national grief support hotlines that you can call for free, confidential, and compassionate counseling. Here are some of them: GriefShare: This hotline connects you with a network of local grief support groups and meetings. You can call 1 (800) 395-5755 to find a group near you or visit their website for more information. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: This hotline provides 24/7 crisis intervention and emotional support for anyone who is suicidal or in distress. You can call 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255) or chat online with a trained counselor. National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization: This hotline helps you locate a hospice program in your area that offers bereavement counseling and support. You can call 1 (800) 658-8898 or visit their website for more information. Compassionate Friends: This hotline offers support and resources for parents who have lost a child of any age. You can call 1 (630) 990-0010 or visit their website for more information. I hope these hotlines can help you cope with your grief and find some comfort and healing. Please remember that you are not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help you. Take care of yourself and reach out for help whenever you need it.
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